4 Signs You’re Having A Quarter Life Crisis (And What To Do)

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Are you a twenty-something feeling lost, confused, stress, hopeless, anxious and lacking direction?

Say hello to a quarter life crisis.

This is a period in life where you’re beginning to really explore adulthood and you’re trying to get your shit together, but something just feels off.

Keep reading to learn what a quarter-life crisis is and how to navigate these rocky times.

Young women going through a quarter life crisis in nature

What is a quarter-life crisis?

A quarter-life crisis typically occurs from your 20s to early 30s.

It can feel unsettling, uncertain, like somethings missing or you’re just not achieving your full potential.

You may feel stuck in a dead-end job, or you’re wondering if you’ll ever find the ‘one’.

Signs you’re having a quarter life crisis

It is worth looking out for some of the following signs to identify if a quarter-life crisis is what you’re experiencing.

1 Jealous and bitter towards your peers

If you’ve ever felt bitter towards your friends that they’ve got a new job, or they’ve just got engaged, or maybe they’ve just moved out, firstly know that it is ok to feel this way and it doesn’t make you a terrible person.

Yes, you do have some work to do, but this is a huge sign that you’re going through a quarter-life crisis.

2 Directionless

Are you no longer interested what you pursued at college or uni? Is your job not satisfying you anymore? Do you struggle to come up with long-term goals?

Lack of direction is a huge indicator that you are experiencing a quarter-life crisis.

3 You lack interest in most things

Do you find yourself binging Netflix series all day and you don’t have any hobbies or interests anymore? Nothing excites you now like it did as a child.

I must clarify, lacking interest in activities is different to lacking motivation.

Motivation comes from taking action, it isn’t a feeling that just magically bestows upon you. If you feel like you’re lacking motivation, that would indicate there is something you’re interested in you just simply can’t be arsed to do it.

4You feel torn between ‘adulting’ and wanting to stay ‘young and free’

The idea of adulting and independence appeals to you, but you also love just being young, irresponsible, and free and you’re not entirely sure which of the 2 you value more.

Have any of these resonated with you?

How to navigate a quarter life crisis?

3 words; channel your energy.

Channelling your energy means you are focusing on what will get you out of this quarter-life crisis.

What are some things you can do that will help you navigate this journey?

Read

“A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one.” – George R.R. Martin.

Need I say anymore?

Pick up a book, fiction or non-fiction an engulf yourself in a story, whether it’s someone’s autobiography or Bridgeton.

The key is to expose yourself to different scenarios, experiences, and lives. You can learn so much from reading.

Listen

Podcasts and audiobooks are another great tool to broaden your mind.

You want to expose yourself to multiple perspectives, even if you don’t agree with them, there’s so much you can learn from them, and it can help you navigate these tough waters.

Watch

We live in an era where we have access to SO much content. In fact, 500 hours of video are uploaded to YouTube every minute worldwide, which is 720,000 hours of video uploaded every day. [i]

Now that means that there is A LOT of rubbish out there, so you have to be conscious of spending time watching the right content.

Listen to Ted Talks or your favourite positive influences.

Try something new

Be adventurous and try something completely new.

Take classes in knitting, calligraphy, wreath making, cooking, or learn a new language, maybe even try indoor climbing.

Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and trying something new enables you to experience new things and meet new people, and maybe you’ll find what you really enjoy along the way.

Meet new people

Never stop broadening your list of acquaintances, you don’t have to become BFF with everyone you meet, but meeting different people from different backgrounds, with different experiences can teach you a lot.

Volunteer

Not only will you be putting back into your community, but you’re going to be meeting like-minded people and learning a lot about yourself when you volunteer.

The sooner you channel your energy into broadening your mind, you will happen upon something that gives you that purpose you’re seeking.

If you want the truth, you won’t find it in your bedroom on your phone scrolling through TikTok.

You must try and learn as much as you can and most importantly ENJOY it.

Final thoughts

Navigating a quarter-life crisis can be a very fun, rewarding, and eye-opening opportunity.

On the journey of discovering who you really are, you’ll meet lots of people, try lots of different activities and learn a lot.

At this point, you have nothing to lose. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and see what life has to offer.


[i] Oberlo – 10 Youtube Statistics Every Marketer Should Know In 2021 (Infographic) https://www.oberlo.co.uk/blog/youtube-statistics#:~:text=500%20hours%20of%20video%20are,Wow

18 COMMENTS

  1. I did not know there was a thing called a quarter life crisis. This makes sense to me though, because in your mid 20s there is a lot going on. THank you for sharing your tips for how to survive the quarter life crisis.

  2. I’ve been through this when I was that age. Now I see it in my two sons. I just keep encouraging them and giving them advice when they feel “lost” and needing direction in life.

  3. I sometimes feel like this but, I’m never jealous to my peers. It’s just that I don’t care anymore about my surroundings and I preferred being alone. Well, thanks for giving these advice!

  4. We all have ups and downs it’s part of life. We enter new stages as we gain life experience and hopefully our knowledge will help us through. I love meeting new people.

  5. I’m a little older than my twenties, but I feel the same way sometimes. I love the part about volunteering more. It enriches your life so much and it helps you network to build your personal and career relationships.

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